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Managing a Project with an Uncommitted Partner

Managing a Project with an Uncommitted Partner: Lessons for Life’s Shared Responsibilities Have you ever been assigned a project with a partner who simply doesn’t care whether it succeeds or fails? They don’t show up, they put in no effort, and you’re left handling all the responsibilities that were meant to be shared. As deadlines approach, you realize that while the project’s success is critical, your partner doesn’t seem to understand—or worse, doesn’t care. It’s a frustrating experience that forces you to bear the weight of not just your part, but theirs as well. Working with someone like this can make the project feel like an uphill battle. You may spend time reminding them of tasks, pleading for their involvement, and trying to motivate them, but all your efforts fall on deaf ears. Soon, it becomes clear: if the project is to succeed, you’ll have to take it all on yourself. Despite the unequal burden, you keep pushing forward, knowing that failure is not an option. What’s even mo...
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Bridging the Generational Gap: The Need for Mutual Respect and Mentorship

 Bridging the Generational Gap: The Need for Mutual Respect and Mentorship The Bible says, *“Do not let anyone despise your youth”* (1 Timothy 4:12), underscoring the notion that youth should not be disregarded. In many settings today, however, young people find themselves in spaces where their potential and creativity are overlooked, dismissed by older generations who may view them as inexperienced. Yet, being young does not equate to being ignorant or incapable. Many of today’s youth are well-educated, exposed to modern ideas, and equipped to contribute meaningfully to organizations. However, their efforts are often misunderstood or met with resistance, which stems from a traditional belief that experience inherently trumps youth. The disconnect is often seen in phrases like, *“This is how we’ve always done it,”* or *“Wait your turn, you weren't here when this started.”* Such remarks come from a place of insecurity or a rigid adherence to old ways of doing things. As a result, yo...
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Girl Child, Know Your Worth

Girl Child, Know Your Worth: Don’t Be Deceived by Those Who Can’t Meet Your Value As a girl growing up in a world full of mixed messages, it can be easy to get deceived by people who don’t truly value you. Some will give you just enough to keep you around, making you feel like you should be grateful for whatever little they offer. But remember, just because that’s all they can give doesn’t mean that’s all you deserve. It’s painful to see young girls seeking validation and love from those who can’t meet their needs, hoping for more from people who have already shown them their best—which often isn’t good enough. You might think that by lowering your standards or accepting less, you’ll get the love and respect you crave. But in reality, the people who can’t meet your worth will only end up disrespecting and undervaluing you. Some people will make you feel as though you’re asking for too much, but the truth is, they simply can’t offer what you deserve. Don’t let them convince you that you...
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Your Worth

 Your Worth: Stop Lowering the Bar for Those Who Can’t Meet It It’s disheartening when people keep asking for more from those who have already shown them their best. Sometimes, what you’re getting is genuinely all they can offer. It’s important to understand that not everyone is capable of giving you what you need or treating you the way you want to be treated. I've come to realize that people will only offer what's within their capacity, whether in character or resources. Some will try to make you feel like they’re doing you a favor, as if you should be grateful for whatever little they give, even when it’s not enough. But the fact that this is all they can offer does not define your worth.  No matter how much you prove your value, some people just won’t be able to afford you—not in the financial sense, but in terms of understanding, appreciation, and respect. They might make you feel like your standards are too high, but the truth is, you’re simply out of their league. The d...
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Building a Strong Shock Absorber

 Building a Strong Shock Absorber: Navigating Life's Unseen Challenges Life has a way of throwing unexpected challenges at us—betrayal, failed relationships, financial struggles, and even public shame. These experiences, though common, can hit us hard, often at the most unexpected moments. In Nigeria, there's a popular saying, "Na everybody go chop breakfast," which translates to "Everyone will experience bitterness at some point." It’s a stark reminder that life’s hardships are inevitable, but how we handle them makes all the difference. I like to think of this ability to handle life's blows as a "shock absorber." Just like in vehicles, a shock absorber is meant to cushion the impact, helping us navigate rough roads without losing control. In life, our shock absorber is our mental and emotional resilience—the strength we build to contain hurt, manage pain, and navigate difficulties in a way that doesn’t destroy our peace, health, or future. Un...
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Just Do It: A Message for Teens

 Just Do It: A Message for Teens Ever find yourself thinking about something you want to do, but then talking yourself out of it? Maybe you’re waiting for the perfect time, or you’re worried about what people might think. But here’s the truth: there’s never a perfect time, and if you keep waiting, you might miss out on something amazing. Whether it’s trying out for a team, starting a new hobby, speaking up in class, or even just posting that video you’ve been sitting on, it’s easy to hesitate. But guess what? The best way to get anything done is to just do it. Think about it—some of the things that make you the most proud are probably the things you took a chance on. Maybe you were nervous or unsure, but you pushed through, and now you’re glad you did. That’s what it’s all about. The small actions you take today can lead to big results tomorrow. And don’t worry if you don’t have everything figured out yet. No one does, especially at your age. Life is about trying things, learning, ...
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Beware of Power-Hungry Manipulators

 *Beware of Power-Hungry Manipulators:* Recognizing and Protecting Yourself from Toxic Control In life, we often encounter people who are driven by an insatiable need to dominate others. These individuals are often disguised as friends, colleagues, or even authority figures. Their goal is simple: to flex their power over others, proving that they are superior in every possible way. While it’s normal for people to assert themselves occasionally, some take it to an extreme, becoming toxic manipulators who seek to control, humiliate, and isolate anyone who challenges them. Recognizing Power-Hungry Manipulators Power-hungry manipulators have certain characteristics that make them easy to spot if you know what to look for. Here are some of their common traits: 1. Exaggerated Responses to Minor Mistakes    Have you ever made a small mistake and found yourself on the receiving end of an overly harsh reaction? These individuals will pounce on any minor error you make, using it as...
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